It’s impossible to prove that the claim made by the title of this 2-CD set is accurate, but it comes close enough for me!

Played by various artists (Hungarian pianist Annie Fischer being the best known), these predominantly classical pieces range from the Andante in Mozart’s Piano Concerto No. 21 in C (the familiar theme from the 1967 movie Elvira Madigan) to the Minuet in G by Beethoven and Chopin nocturnes. J.S. Bach, Brahms, Rachmaninov, Satie and half a dozen other composers are also represented.

The peaceful, soothing mood evoked by these CDs is especially effective for banishing stress. The tranquil music enfolds you like a down comforter, which is what I’m frequently wrapped up in when enjoying this album.

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My all-time favorite, Jerzy Kosinski’s screen adaptation of his 1971 book is a send-up of fatuity in American politics, television and celebrity.

Peter Sellers is the handsome but feeble-minded Chance Gardener, so named because he tends the flowerbeds of the moldering mansion where he is employed and has lived from childhood to middle age.

Isolated except for what he sees on TV and mistakes for reality, Gardener is evicted upon his elderly employer’s death and ventures into the world wearing one of the dead man’s badly dated but elegant suits. He also carries a TV remote control with which he tries to “change the channel” whenever he blunders into uncomfortable situations.

And these are many, because everything that happens to Gardener thereafter stems from peoples’ misjudgement of him based on his impressive appearance and their misinterpretation of his state of mind, which he expresses through oracular-sounding metaphors such as: “All is well—and all will be well—in the garden.”

Street toughs threaten Gardener, taking him for rich, and he escapes them only to be hit by a limousine carrying one of the wealthiest men in the U.S. The mortified mogul thinks Gardener must be eminent also, mishears his name of Chance for the upper-crust “Chauncy” and puts his palatial estate at Gardener’s disposal to recover. There Gardener is tended by his rescuer’s much younger and lovelorn wife (Shirley McLaine). She tries to seduce him, while her husband sees in Gardener a pliable and TV-genic puppet that he and other movers and shakers can maneuver into the confidence of the U.S. President as an advisor and unwitting tool of their own interests.

By the film’s end, this man with a very low IQ has gathered fame as a philosopher and is headed for the White House—propelled by people who, unlike Gardener, are not just simple, but simpleminded.

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This is the second of three collections of original and inspirational song-chants by former blues club singer Karen Drucker.

Unlike some artists in the genre of “New Thought Music,” Drucker wants you to sing along with her harmonies as well as listen to them. Singing/chanting does in fact strengthen the affirming emotions you feel when following Drucker in expressing gratitude, seeking balance, opening up to health and welcoming peace.

I often program my CD player to summon me to this potent experience first thing in the morning. Try it—it can literally make your day.

Laughter is the best medicine, and when someone I know is very ill emotionally or physically, I send them this film. It is a wonderful farce with laugh-out-loud humor.

Bob Wiley (Bill Murray) suffers phobias too numerous to count and literally drives his psychiatrist, the uptight and snobby Dr. Lee Marvin (Richard Dreyfuss), crazy, even pursuing him on his family vacation. Worse, Dr. Marvin has written a self-help book based on his therapy of Bob, but sees his Baby Steps assist Bob in making a giant leap into the media spotlight instead.

My favorite scene: Dr. Marvin gritting his teeth as Bob dines with his family and compliments Mrs. Marvin’s cooking by moaning, “Mmmm. MMmm. MMMM.” The family giggles with pleasure until the doctor snaps and starts screaming insanely at Bob.

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I bought this book at a garage sale. It was the best 10 cents I ever spent!

Seabury argues that acts of so-called “selflessness” have caused us more suffering over the ages than anything else we do. To counter this, he urges adoption of two principles:

• The Basic Law of Being Is To Never Compromise Yourself
  Compromising your own fundamental nature and needs to meet the perceived desires of others leads to all sorts of negative consequences. In particular, to do something solely out of a sense of obligation can make you resentful. The best way to “do” for others is in the spirit of joy and with a genuine desire to reach out. This concept is very difficult to grasp, because we’ve been taught that it’s noble to be selfless.
• The Magic Formula of Human Relations Is To Avoid Feeding Your Ego
  Because we all want to look good and be admired, we sometimes feed our egos by doing things for others that they neither need nor want. The implicit message is that we are strong and good and the person whom we “help” is weak. Who wouldn’t resent receiving our favors when we extend them in such a way?

If you are a “giver,” this is the book to read. It will make you take a long, hard look at yourself and your motives, but once you understand these, you may well feel liberated.

Favorite insight from the book: “Someday we shall learn the part unselfishness plays in hindering us: unselfishness as advocated in our time. We shall see its relation to the flood of mental breakdowns, trace its influence in divorce. We shall know how it drives men to crime and find it a cause of suicide. At their worst, greed and envy have not wrought such havoc.”

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When I was in the ninth grade, I ran for student council and was desperate to win. I had an ulterior motive: I wanted to be as popular in school as my older brother Dennis, because I thought that was why he was my father’s favorite.

As the saying goes, “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” I came upon Carnegie’s book and one of the principles that changed my young life—Principle 3: “Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”

I memorized the names of all my classmates and began to call them each by name whenever we met in the hallway, in class, or outside school. It worked! I was elected a student council member!

More important, I realized that people’s names are indeed music to their ears—and that you can learn success strategies from books! The latter discovery is responsible for all that I have become or will become.

Many years later, I continue to use this wonderful book as a reference tool. First published in 1936, it remains one of the best books on human relations ever written.

Favorite insight from the book: Always make the other person feel important.

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Until I read this book, what I knew about optimists and pessimists was pretty much encapsulated in such jokes as: “An optimist is a 90-year-old who marries and looks for a house near a school.”

Don’t let the title of this book fool you: it’s not “rah-rah” for positive thinking. Seligman paints a balanced picture based on years of research and does not encourage optimism when your circumstances demand pessimism. Nonetheless, his professional study of helplessness and ways to enlarge personal control leads him to argue strongly for the overall benefits of optimism.

Because I focus on fostering happiness in the workplace, I particularly enjoyed the chapter “Success at Work.” In it are real-world examples of the usefulness of both optimism and pessimism on the job. You could argue, for example, that the top executives at Enron were much too optimistic for their own good, not to mention that of their employees and stockholders! On the other hand, who wants to work for a doomsayer boss?

Favorite insight from the book: The genius of evolution lies in the dynamic way that optimism and pessimism constantly correct each other.

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My daughter’s ADD therapist recommended this book to me, and I have found it a gold mine of tips and techniques for handling many of life’s larger obstacles. If you or someone you know suffers anxiety, depression, obsession, anger, or impulsivity, this book provides solid tools for soothing the pain.

Some of Dr. Amen’s best recommendations are:

• Kill The ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts)
• Focus On What You Like A Lot More Than What You Don’t Like
• Learn To Deal With Conflict

Favorite insight from the book: Focusing on the negative aspects of others or of your own life makes you more vulnerable to depression and can damage your relationships.

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