A Fun & Simple Use for Law of Attraction

January 14th, 2015

Simply stated, The Law of Attraction dictates, “You get more of what you focus on.”

This can be a fun concept to play with, if you’re game. Are you?

carsYou’ve likely had the experience of deciding to buy a specific make and model of a car and then suddenly seeing it everywhere. Or deciding you can’t stand a certain song and then hearing it over and over (and over). That is the Law of Attraction at work. You get more of what you focus on (and resisting something means you’re focused on it).

A few years back I went through a period where I had grown really tired of Kenny G. Once I activated that thought with some amount of fervor, it was like he was stalking me. I heard him in elevators, on the radio, on TV—he seemed to be EVERYWHERE I was.

In the last month, I have had a lot of fun activating something I want with Law of Attraction. Here’s what happened:

I needed a kick in the backside to get me into gear for 2015 so I reviewed Tony Robbins’ CD program, Time for Your Life. I do this at least once a year. It has never failed to help me produce amazing outcomes.

As a result of working the program, I now have an action list, broken down into categories that I review once a week to plan my activities. One of the things I wrote down under the category Enthusiastic Learner was “Activate Law of Attraction daily to bring in the teachers I need.”

Wow! And double wow! This has worked at warp speed.

I have been studying how to offer many of my programs online. Every time I wonder how to do something that will move this project forward, the answer comes, without fail, in the form of an email, social media posting or a conversation with a friend. I cannot begin to estimate how many hundreds of hours of research this has saved me.  The teachers are appearing whenever I need them!

This online training project I am working on is a steep learning curve. It is not easy but it is certainly possible, as evidenced by the vast amount of online training now available. What I have learned over the years is to make sure I don’t empower, “This is too hard,” or “I can’t do this.” When I allow things to come to me easily, they do.

What’s coming easily to you, or what would you like to come to you easily?

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Savor Every Second!

January 6th, 2015

Brand New Year, brand new slate.

I know that’s technically not true. I mean, just because the calendar flipped one page, we have a brand new slate?  But it feels correct, doesn’t it?  Every year, on January 2nd, I get very excited about the opportunity to improve my life during the next 12 months.

This morning in meditation the phrase, “Savor every second” came to me and I feel compelled to write about it. It’s a wonderful phrase, don’t you think?  Savor every second.  It brings to mind delicious things: a hot shower or a warm, fragrant bath; the first cup of tea or coffee in the morning; a glimpse of the sun after a week of stormy weather; a glimpse of snow or rain after months of unrelenting sun. Each of us savors different things but the act of savoring is perhaps the best gift you can give to yourself, every single—well—second!

poundstoneOn New Year’s Eve I went to see the comedian Paula Poundstone and, as I sat in the audience, waves of laughter flowed around me from behind, from below and from either side (and from inside of me!). It was wonderful. I didn’t realize in that moment that I was savoring but I realize now I was. I was drinking it in, amazed by my good fortune to be in the audience with my friend Sharon, joining in the fun.

Savoring is for the small, wonderful parts of life as well as the dramatic ones. It’s all about sights, smells, touch and sounds and finding something wonderful in every moment.

When I looked up the word savor in The Synonym Finder by Rodale, I found the phrase, “Get a kick out of.” That’s a big part of savoring every second. Last night I found on my DVR the Christmas program for Saturday Night Live. It turned out to be a repeat of Christmas 2013 but I watched it because Jimmy Fallon was the host and I get a kick out of Jimmy Fallon. He just makes me smile. He vibrates with excitement even when he appears to be standing still.

timberlikeMy bonus for watching the show?  Justin Timberlake was part of the cast and did an impression of Fallon that was spot on! It was so much fun to watch!  Even Fallon himself couldn’t not laugh (contrary to the photo).

You can savor anything if you put yourself into the right frame of mind—work, play, chores, errands, noisy kids on planes—it’s all about your mindset.

What do you savor that might surprise me?  I’d love to hear.

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Fantasy Island

December 10th, 2014

Last week I had the privilege of spending half a day with Esther Hicks, of Abraham-Hicks fame. Esther and her late husband Jerry were pioneers in the Law of Attraction movement, teaching millions around the globe the principles of this law that simply says:  You get more of what you focus on.

Focus & Feeling – One of the things Esther shared was Abraham’s concept of “focus and feeling.”  In other words, focus on something, and then check how you are feeling.  If you are feeling positive, then you are in the mode of attracting what you want. If you are feeling negative, then it is your inner guidance system telling you, “If you stay focused where you’re focused, you are not going to like the results.”

Emotional Manifestation First – Esther also introduced the idea of emotional manifestation. This expression was new to me although the explanation was familiar. Basically, it’s a wonderful way to say that, when you focus on something, you first manifest it emotionally.

Emotional manifestation is very clear when you are worried.  You focus on “worst case scenarios” and, even though none of it has happened yet, it feels as if it has. And because worry is such a strong negative emotion, it puts you in a powerful position to attract the very thing you don’t want.  So, in essence, it has already manifested for you emotionally and, if left unchecked will ultimately manifest in reality.

One of my very favorite Abraham-Hicks quotes is, “Worry is using your imagination to attracting something you DON’T want!”

Conversely, when you are able to fantasize about something you want, focusing on “wonderful case scenarios,” it begins to feel as if it’s already happening, putting you in a powerful position to attract it. Let’s say you focus on being at the beach in Hawaii and you think about it so much that you can hear the waves and feel the sun on your face.  This “emotional manifestation” makes you happy and the real thing is closer to becoming reality. Surf’s up!

The bottom line is that we want what we want because we think that having it will make us happy. If you get happy first (and the fastest way to do that is to imagine that you already have what you want), then it will come to you—this is a wonderful paradox.

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5 Ways to Ensure The Best Holiday Season EVER!

November 26th, 2014

Hint: None of them involve $$$


The Law of Attraction dictates that you get more of what you focus on. Another way to say it is, “You get what you expect.” If you are looking forward to the holidays with a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, then you are expecting the worst. Guess what? You will get it!

Expectations are a story you made up. If you’re going to make up a story anyhow, why not make up one that serves you? Looking ahead to the holidays, begin by asking yourself, “How do I want to feel during this time?” You have 100% control over how you feel.


Memorize this question, “Do I have any control whatsoever over this?” If the answer is “no,” then let it go! This includes any and all actions of others. The ONLY thing you can control is how you feel.


Quick! What gifts did you receive in 2006? It’s rare to remember all the gifts we receive but what we do remember are those special rituals—hot cocoa and cinnamon buns around the Christmas tree, the lighting of the Menorah or the kiss at midnight on New Year’s. If your family doesn’t have rituals, why not create some this year?


Remember, you get more of what you focus on. Look for things that bring a smile to your lips. Even the most disastrous of holidays is often remembered with much laughter years later. Why not skip the years and laugh now (even if only on the inside)?


Maybe you can’t actually “go over the wall” but there are all sorts of ways to escape inside your mind. Fantasies can be great fun to indulge. For example, pick a famous comedian and imagine what he or she would be doing at that moment in your circumstances. Jimmy Fallon of The Tonight Show has a segment where he writes funny, painfully honest thank you letters. Maybe you can be writing your thank you notes in your head. Or take that trip to Tahiti you’ve always wanted. It’s your mind; you get to say what it does.

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Permission to Rampage, Sir!

November 5th, 2014

I am excited to share what the past weeks have been like for me. I have been following the advice of Abraham Hicks, my spiritual teacher, to indulge in “Rampages of Appreciation” and the results have been amazing. And it’s so much fun!

Because I live alone, I can rampage out loud without worrying about someone calling for a straight jacket. Somehow this adds an extra “oomph” to the great feelings being produced. And never have I seen a more clear demonstration of how the Law of Attraction works.

The Law of Attraction says you get more of what you focus on. As I focus on all the things I appreciate and particularly, as I reach for more to add to the list, a momentum is created that sweeps me along in a delicious tidal wave of positive feelings.

These Rampages of Appreciation can be general or specific.


If you want to have an AMAZING day, do a morning rampage. It’s fun to start before you even get out of bed. Start thinking about all the things you appreciate about your life. Keep looking for more and more and more. Continue this rampage as you prepare for the day and as you travel to work, or wherever your first destination is.

At bedtime, if you want to have a restful sleep, do a rampage as you’re lying in bed drifting off. Think of all the things about your day that you appreciate.  Or focus on the wonderful bed, the feel of the sheets, your perfectly broken in pillow, etc. I guarantee that, when you do this at night, you will wake up the next morning in a very good mood!


If there’s something you want to improve, trust me when I tell you that the last thing you want to focus on is what you want to “fix.” Remember, the Law of Attraction gives you more of what you focus on. When you focus on the problem….well, you get the picture. Instead, do a specific Rampage of Appreciation.

Let’s say you don’t like your job. The more you focus on all the reasons for this, the worse it gets; have you noticed?  Instead, do a specific Rampage of Appreciation for your job. DON’T MAKE THINGS UP.  Look for things you appreciate no matter how seemingly minute. Is the commute an easy one? Are the hours convenient? Is the pay enough to sustain you? Is the work easy for you? Are there co-workers you like? Is there a restaurant close to work you enjoy? Simply begin looking for all the things you appreciate about your job.  You will be AMAZED by how transformative this is.

A word of caution: many people resist doing a Rampage of Appreciation about something bugging them for fear they will get stuck with it forever. “What if I focus on what I appreciate about my job and I’m no longer motivated enough to leave?” (Oh, horror!) Actually, the Law of Attraction has the opposite effect. If you leave a job (as an example) because of all the things you dislike about it, you will attract the same negative circumstances in your next job (or even, gasp! in retirement if that’s where you go).  On the other hand, if you focus on what you appreciate about your work, you will attract more of that into your life. Your new job will be full of those good things instead of the negative aspects you dragged with you.

Giving thanks is so revered by Americans that we even have a special holiday for it!  As we move toward Thanksgiving, have at least one Rampage per day and watch how very special that holiday is when it arrives!

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The Martian Who Broke My Heart

October 21st, 2014

When I was 11 a Martian boy broke my heart.

Over Sunday breakfast I was telling my friend Sharon why I am so careful about the movies I see, the TV I watch and the books I read.

There was a time I thought I enjoyed “entertainment” that stirred deep, negative emotions. That was before I began to pay closer attention.

Our minds do not know the difference between pretend and reality. If a story is told well and we absorb it, it’s as if it happened to us or in front of us. 

Author Nicholas Sparks is on my list of “Go back; it’s a trap!” Why read his books only to put myself in a position to have my heart broken?  His formula is always the same—he uses his gift for storytelling to get me to fall in love with one of his characters and then, poof! HE KILLS THAT CHARACTER OFF!!

To me, reading Nicholas Sparks more than once is like getting back together with a guy who, every time you let him back into your life breaks up with you—the last time via text!

Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice shame on me.

Nick, Nick, Nick, why use your powers for evil when you could do so much good?

I realize now that, when I spend concentrated time paying attention to things that make me squirm (and not in a good way) there is a price to pay.  Not only am I twisted up while it’s happening but I wake up in the middle of the night obsessively pondering it.  And sometimes the negative impact lasts for years.

Which brings me to that heartbreaking Martian Boy. I was 11-years-old and watching, with my older siblings the sci-fi movie Teenagers from Outer Space.  The Martians had landed and were, you know, being all friendly and nice to the Earthlings, winning their trust. One of the teenaged Martian boys even fell in love with an Earthling girl. It was a beautiful romance that fully captured my pre-adolescent heart.

Then the Martian Boy overheard his superiors plotting to take over the Earth. The plan was to leave in the Martian spaceship and drop a bomb that would annihilate everyone. This put the Martian boy into a panic. He had promised his girlfriend he would never leave her but, in order to foil the evil Martian plot, he had to be on that spaceship when it left.

Sobbing her heart out, begging him not to go, she watched helplessly as he boarded the spaceship. It took off and when it was far enough away, the Martian boy carried out his plan and blew up the spaceship killing everyone on board, including himself.

His girlfriend threw herself into the arms of her mother, crying hysterically.

As the movie ended, with dramatic music swelling, we heard the Martian boy’s voice saying, “I made you a promise I would never leave you, and I kept that promise.”

Remember, I was 11. I ran out of the living room, into my bedroom and threw myself on the bed. I cried nonstop for three hours and at dinner that night I was so distraught I could barely think straight.

Our minds do not know the difference between pretend and reality. If that silly movie had such a profound impact on me back then, imagine what watching the news does to me today.

Am I the exception?  Am I some weird emotional mutant who needs to live in a protective bubble? I would argue not.  I think the things to which we pay attention impact each of us on a deeper level than we even know.

While buttering my croissant, I said to Sharon, “What I cannot understand is why people continue to do this. I know people who are aware they are depressed and that certain “entertainment” vehicles make it worse and yet they can’t seem to stop.”

I said, “If you burn your hand on a hot stove, you withdraw it immediately and you never do that again. But people “burn” their minds with movies and books and TV shows and yet they go back over and over again.  Why?”

And my brilliant friend answered, “It’s because they don’t make the correlation. The hot stove is a quick and clear example of ‘cause and effect.’  What you’re talking about doesn’t happen as quickly and so it’s not that clear-cut.”


  • Have you ever been in a foul mood and couldn’t figure out why?
  • Have you ever been easily irritated when everything around you is going well?
  • Have you ever exploded in anger when the pizza delivery person forgot the cheesy bread?

All these examples and more could be the result of something you’d been focused on that has deeply upset you.  Maybe it wasn’t today. Maybe it was a week ago. Maybe it was when you were 11!

Be careful what you feed your mind. It matters more than you can imagine.

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Could it BE more obvious

September 29th, 2014

You haven’t heard from me for awhile.  I apologize.

I realized this week that I have been living in fear. It was subtle but I recognize it; it’s an all too familiar feeling.

Fear is always about the future, the unknown. I am fine right now, right this second. Nothing is amiss. Sure, I miss Bill like crazy—he’s been gone over a year now—but that’s a given, not something to be fearful about. Plain and simple, I am fearful about my future. I feel a bit like Scarlett O’Hara when she said to Rhett Butler as he walked out the door, “Rhett! Rhett! If you go, where shall I go? What shall I do?” To which Rhett replied, “Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.”

I suppose my fear is that the Universe is like Rhett Butler; it doesn’t give a damn. So foolish and yet, isn’t that what’s behind most fear?  Lack of faith.  The problem is, the more we lose faith, the more the Law of Attraction works against our best interests. The more I stay focused on the doom and gloom I am making up in my mind, the more likely it will come to pass.

I have been desperate for a kick-start. To fill that need I decided to renew my acquaintance with an audio series entitled The Time of Your Life – More Time for What Really Matters to You.  I say, “I decided.” Actually, it was the Law of Attraction at work. On Thursday I had left my house to drive to Los Angeles and realized I had forgotten some CDs I intended to listen to while on the road. So, being only 5 minutes into the trip, I turned the car around to retrieve them. And there, sitting on the shelf next to the CD’s I’d forgotten was this audio program. I laughed, thinking, “Well, I’ve been requesting more energy. This oughta do it!”

You may have seen Tony Robbins, the author of this CD program, on TV as the star of many infomercials for his products. He has an UNBELIEVABLE amount of energy and it is catchy. I purchased this particular program many years ago and it was money well spent. I have used it many times over the years to inspire me to action, kick-start my energy and produce results. The first time I took this course, I found a way to buy a house even though I didn’t think I made enough money or had a high enough credit score.

Robbins made me a believer.

Fast forward to today. As I began to listen to this program for the umpteenth time in my life, I slapped my forehead as I recognized the irony of what I was listening to. Robbins’ primary message is about the power of focus. D-uh! That’s what I have been teaching for the last 15 years—you get more of what you focus on!  I guess it’s true that we teach what we most need to learn.

Where has my focus been?  The answer is, “On what’s not happening.”  I have been mired in fear, knowing I need to shift but not knowing how.  This CD series is giving me the much-needed energy I require to turn things around. And, once things start to turn, momentum is always your friend.

Are you “stuck” in some area of your life?  Think about what has worked to get you unstuck in the past.  If you cannot remember, ask the Universe to bring to you whatever you need to move ahead. Perhaps this blog is the answer to your prayers.

Here are some helpful questions I learned from  Robbins:

  1. What’s my result (outcome)?  What do I really want?
  2. Why?  What’s my purpose? (This ignites your passion which, in turn, ignites your journey). Why do I really want it?
  3. How?  What specific actions must I take to make this happen and how can I do it in a way that I enjoy it?

Let me know how you’re doing. Your emails never fail to inspire me to action!!!

The following reminder is as much for me as for you—Change your focus; change your life!

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Lessons From a Year of Grief

August 5th, 2014

It is hard to believe but August 7th is the one-year anniversary of my life-partner Bill’s departure for his next big adventure. It feels like he was just here yesterday and it feels like he’s been gone forever.

The lessons are not over but here is what I have learned over the past year:

Everyone handles change at a different pace and in different ways.

I thought I knew how I would handle the profound changes that came with Bill’s death. I figured it would be similar to the ways I had handled the death of others whom I loved and who had moved on. I was wrong.  Every relationship is profoundly different and therefore the grieving is different.

So it is with any change. Be careful about saying of another, “Oh, he’ll be fine. He’s faced this kind of adversity before,” or, “She’s going to fall apart. She can’t handle this.” The truth is each change is unique and the way one handles it depends on the circumstances that are present now, not the ones that were present the last time something similar happened.

When my best friend died in a car accident, I was 17 and ill equipped to handle the torrent of deeply negative emotions that happen when one comes face-to-face with the concept of mortality. I felt suicidal. It threw me into depression and awakened my latent alcoholism. I struggled for decades to recover.

Today I am resilient. For one, I don’t make my grief worse by drinking and I am no longer depressed. Although I miss Bill like crazy, I am able to laugh and smile at the memories rather than use them as an excuse to wallow. When I do allow myself to feel the feelings, I dive into them deliberately; I don’t hide from them.  I “let it rip.”

As life marches on, the grief takes up less time and the celebration of the love we had takes up more.

The impact of change is unpredictable. You don’t know its impact until you do.

One of the biggest changes for me during Bill’s illnesses and in the year following his transition is that I decided to retire my crystal ball. I have no idea what’s going to happen until it does.

It is possible to be both extremely frightened and extremely calm.

Facing life without Bill is frightening and yet, I feel extremely calm because I know I can do this. I don’t want to but I can, and I will. So it is with any profound change—you may not want to get through it but you can, and you will.

People will abandon you in your time of need.

When change hits, it is easy to believe that you’re the one in the most pain. In the case of the death of a spouse, it’s a time when society actually allows you to be self-centered. But others are in pain, too, and sometimes they cannot face yours. They are doing everything they can to hold themselves together; they don’t have anything left to give to you. Their departure is not meant to be deliberately hurtful; it is a survival mechanism. The best thing to do is what my friend Laura recommends: in your mind shower them with roses.

People you never suspected will be extremely supportive.

I have many wonderful friends who have stood by me for decades. I also have new friends whom I have met only recently. I have always been grateful for those on whom I have depended throughout my life. They are the invisible arms that hold me.

And I have been surprised and moved by those who don’t know me as well, or to whom I am not necessarily close, who have reached out to me over the past few years while Bill was sick and after his transition.

When change hits it is often true that you will discover your biggest allies to be people whom you have never counted on before but who “show up” when you need them most.

During this profound time of change, I have felt your presence and your love. You have helped more than you will ever know. The very best thing I can wish for you is that you experience the same level of support in your own life.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.



Joyful News in a World Gone Mad

July 23rd, 2014

In July of last year, I dedicated a blog to my friend Laura and her journey with pancreatic cancer, one of the deadliest forms of cancer there is. In that blog, What Would You Pay? I asked the question, “What would you pay for more time with your loved ones?”

YOU ROCK!!! Because you gave so generously, for a year Laura has been able to continue the life-saving treatment at the Block Center for Integrative Health in Skokie, IL. Going for treatment there is no small feat. Laura and her husband Ed, both teachers, live in Ferndale, California. Just to get to the airport in Sacramento is a FIVE-HOUR DRIVE! Then it takes TWO FLIGHTS to get to Chicago (earlier this year that included WINTER! Yikes!) It’s an all day journey that is sort of okay on the way to but the way back? Remember, she’s been treated with chemotherapy and then has to take this long journey after. This is someone who really wants to live.  And she is often alone-her husband has to work.

Because of your generosity, last month Laura was present to dance with her son at his wedding. As if that weren’t joyful enough, just yesterday she welcomed her first grandchild, Grayson who was so warm and cozy in his mommy’s belly, we thought he’d NEVER come out (40 weeks!!). He is the son of Laura’s daughter Lily and her husband Joe.

Will you help Laura to continue? She has insurance but it costs another $2800/month for the expenses related to travelling for treatment (alas, this treatment isn’t offered any closer to where she lives).

I am asking everyone to donate the price of a Starbucks coffee, a glass of wine or a beer (whatever your thing is).  There is no such thing as a small donation. Every single dollar is appreciated and adds up!!! All I ask is that you do it now—while you are inspired—and not put it off. (If you’re like me, you have good intentions but life gets in the way!)

Here are 3 ways to donate:

To donate by check, please make it out to:

Laura Grant Cancer Fund

PO Box 1313 Ferndale CA  95536

To donate through PayPal


OR – I have started a CrowdTilt campaign:  https://www.crowdtilt.com/campaigns/laura-grantthriving-because-of-you





Zen Thing

July 9th, 2014

This morning I saw this posting on Facebook. I liked it so much I re-posted it. And then (here’s a concept for you) I decided to actually TRY it!

I had gotten a late start to my day so I was already feeling behind which is ironic since I work for myself. But old habits die hard, don’t they? One of my teachers has finally convinced me that you cannot break a habit; you can only replace it with a different one, hopefully one that serves you better.

So I decided to break—er—replace my habit of frantic activity that always includes multi-tasking.

The first thing I tried on the list was “Make cleaning and cooking become meditation.” So, instead of turning on music while I cooked breakfast, I decided to simply cook. That incorporated the second thing I tried: “Do one thing at a time.” It was pretty amazing. As I cut up the spinach for my omelet, I was thinking about how grateful I was for the spinach and the knife. I became absorbed in watching the knife slice through the spinach. Then I decided to add onions and basil to the frying pan and thought to myself, “Look at me! Cooking with herbs and spices.” (I only recently became what anyone would define as a cook.) Then I remembered I had gotten the eggs at the local farmers market and was pleased about that.

While all this Zen mindfulness was going on, my Monkey Mind was certainly trying to distract me.  While waiting for the frying pan to heat up, I had to stop myself from checking my emails. Then I had a couple of ideas for a project I was working on and, instead of rushing to write them down, I pulled my mind back to the task at hand.

I applied the same principles to cleaning up the apartment with slightly less successful results but I kept at it. For some reason, being in motion while I was cleaning fed my Monkey Mind. It was almost as if it was saying to me, “You’re moving fast. Yay! Let’s do lots of things at once!” I would have done well to try, “Do it slowly and deliberately.”  Next time.

Instead I tried: “Do it completely.” Usually, when I am straightening up a room, there will come a time when something in the first room must be moved to a second room where it belongs. I then end up working on the second room before completing the first. I’ve always told myself it’s more efficient this way and maybe it is. But it is not nearly as satisfying. A few things done partially does not generate energy the way completing one thing does.

And so it goes. Even as I sit here writing to you, my Monkey Mind wants me to stop and check my emails, play a game on my phone or check my bank balance. It’s amazing to observe.

Here is the important part. I feel noticeably calmer than I usually do at this time of the day. There are more things on the list I am going to put into play but there’s no hurry, is there? I am happy with my infant habits and that is enough for today. And so now I will try the next thing: ”Put space between things.”

I’d love to hear from you about ways you practice these principles. If you experiment with them after reading this, let me know how it goes!